HOW TO BE MORE EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT

I know we all have a secret or two or three, but at least one that we don’t want anyone to know about. If anyone finds out it could cause emotional turmoil but it doesn’t have to. Even if you respond in a bad way and cry your eyes out you can stop the tears and take some time to figure out how you are going to deal with what just happened. So, your challenge is to think of how you would feel if your secret got exposed. Take into consideration that celebrities have secrets exposed all the time and they survive it. Take into account that you may not be the only person involved in the secret. Take into account that you have to deal with it otherwise you will self-destruct. Ask yourself is that what you want? Self-destruction or a resolution?

Now sit down and calm yourself down and just take some time to think how you feel about what just happened. What would you do if your secret was exposed? How will you respond? Write down some ways you can respond and figure out the best way to handle it. Identify all of the emotions that arise and write them down so you can get them out. Come up with several ways you can express your emotions without harming yourself or someone else and choose one or more. Now, write how you want to emotionally intelligently respond to your secret being exposed. What is your “If”, Your “Then” and your “What”. (If a certain thing happens, Then I will do What?)….practice this when you experience an emotionally charged situation….